although im currently enrolled at another institute (i.e. UTNIF aka debate camp), i remain a diligent student at Meg's Grad School. although im in austin, texas, and mi teacher is back at home in the bay area, cali, the internet is a wonderful thing and facilitates class sessions.
Lesson Four
this lesson was sparked when the student asked, "how do you flirt? actually, what is flirting?" So this, the fourth lesson at Meg's Grad School, is about...flirting, that most difficult of social skills. The lessons at Meg's Grad School increase in difficulty and work towards the ultimate goal--finding a Significant Other. Remember, Lesson One was about The Goal, Lesson Two was a clarification of The Goal, Lesson Three was How To Make An Entrance. Now that The Goal is known, and we know How To Make An Entrance, we proceed to the next step of the game...how to achieve The Goal after Making An Entrance.
student: how do you flirt? er...actually, what is flirting?
siren9: flirting. its essentially the act of getting a guy's attention. see, flirting must be subtle because the key to flirting is not to let the person know that you're flirting with them
student: so how do you do this...i mean, how do you get a guy's attention (in a good way...not by doing something like tearing him to shreds during cross-ex)?
siren9: the basic sumary of a successful flirt is: 'i see you and i want you, but i'm not going to admit that i want you. instead, i will make some smalltalk and you will eventually want me. then you wil chase after me, flatter me, buy me drinks/dinner, etc."
siren9: flirting requires that you maintain a thin halo
siren9: you *must* have a halo, otherwise you appear easy;
student: bleh
siren9: however, if the halo is too thick, you come off as uninteresting
siren9: hence you must maintain a halo - "you can't get me that easily, but i do have a wild side"
siren9: which implies: spend enough money on me, and you just might see my wild side ;-)
siren9: flirting requires that you walk a fine line with how much attention you give the guy:
siren9: you dont wanna be too into him cuz that takes the fun out of it
siren9: but you wanna be sufficiently into him so that he thinks he might have a chance with you
siren9: as mentioned previously in the discussion of cheating, guys go after girls partially for the sake of the chase: mentality of 'oooh if i can get her, it'll be good for my ego' prevails in their darling little heads
student: ok ::absorbing lesson:: complicated but doable i think
siren9: it just takes practice
siren9: flirting is the quintessential Lab science
siren9: flirting requires much subtlty and patience
siren9: flirting is so much fun
siren9: cuz you convince a guy that he wants you without his realizing it
in truth, it is something very difficult to do. according to mi teacher, flirting is an art and it's easier to learn if you have excellent role models. unfortunately, i have never had any experience with excellent role models, and according to mi teacher, the best one that she knows is very, very accomplished...but he lives in Russia. while it's easy to find a plethora of models who ought not to be imitated and also to figure out things that should not be done, it is significantly harder to figure out exactly what to do. and from what i've observed, what to do varies from situation to situation. mi teacher's remark that one must maintain a thin halo was extremely informative, however. Even though the situation and the people may vary, to flirt successfully, one must maintain a thin halo and behave accordingly...and exactly how thin the halo needs to be can adjust itself to each situation. but the comment 'maintain a thin halo' conveyed the essence of flirting perfectly :-D.
oh dear...it's time to go to electives! ::adjusts halo:: ;-)
